It Has To Be Me Episode

ANTIDOTES TO FEAR

Tess Masters

Episode #50: April 17th, 2025

THE GOLD

“Fear and excitement activate in the same place in the body. It's just a different expectation of the outcome.”

Tess Masters

host of the It Has To Be Me podcast

“Acting with fear is easier than living with the pain of regret.”

Tess Masters

host of the It Has To Be Me podcast

“Always see yourself in training. Leverage every experience to hone your skills and upgrade your operating system. When you feel afraid, focus on what you can control, and choose to find another gear with your resilience and determination to figure it out.”

Dave Scatchard

founder of All-Star Coaching

“When you need to calm yourself and meet the moment of dysregulation, notice what your body is asking for to shift the energy. Do you need to move? Do you need to shake it out?”

Kelly Lubeck, MPH, RYT

Shamanic Practitioner

“To combat fear, go with your intrinsic motivation. What lights you up?”

Andrew Wilder

founder and CEO of Nerdpress

“Intuition feels completely different than fear. Intuition is generative and warm and supportive, and feels right even if it's scary. When something feels right, it's like a feather that kind of gently settles to the ground. There's a lightness and an ease about it. Fear tends to have a judgment and a bite to it. It rarely says anything positive.”

Heather McGuire

Intuitive Wisdom Coach

“Just focus on having fun. Even if it's a disaster, at least you'll have a memory of having a good time.”

Ben Baker

Photographer

“Fear usually comes from other people's voices. You always have the real knowing. The moment you self-betray is the moment you stop listening to yourself.”

Syama Bunten

Host of the Getting Rich Together podcast

“If you’re afraid of a decision, make the empowering shift from ‘what if’ to ‘even if’. It creates an imaginary safety net that reminds you that you have the ability to figure it out, no matter what happens.”

Nell Wulfhart

The Decision Coach

in THIS EPISODE

  • To mark 50 episodes of “It Has To Be Me,” I’m highlighting insights from our guests about navigating fear and going after what you want.

  • Starting this podcast, I knew this universal challenge would come up again and again, and that we were in for a masterclass.

  • An NHL star coached us to see ourselves as always in training, and to find another gear of resilience. CEO and pioneer in infrared sauna technology encourages her team to make mistakes and then leverage them. A celebrity portrait photographer’s rule is to own the room no matter who’s in it.

  • Guests have not only taken us inside their stories, they’ve also shared their unique perspectives and methods for seizing the moment and grabbing the wheel when fear threatens to derail things.

  • The big lessons? Negotiate change with curiosity, listen to your gut, embrace failure as opportunity, get agency from regret, and frame every experience as a necessary step to achieving your goals.

  • Tune in for strategies to bulldoze those fears and seize your next “It Has To Be Me!”

TESS'S TAKEAWAYS

  • When you buy into fear, you energize your suffering.

  • Name and claim your fear and it ceases to have power.

  • The greatest antidote to fear is action.

  • Fear and excitement activate in the same place in the body.

  • Start before you feel ready. Courage comes from doing.

  • To combat fear, focus on what you can control.

  • By shifting from 'what if' to 'even if' you can empower yourself.

  • Acting despite fear is easier than living with regret.

ABOUT TESS

Tess Masters is a wellness coach, actor, presenter, speaker, podcaster, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend published by Penguin Random House. You can find hundreds of easy recipes at theblendergirl.com.

Through the Skinny60® health programs, Tess and her team of dietitians have helped over 30,000 people get healthy using science-based food and lifestyle strategies. The “Good, Better, or Best, Not Perfect” philosophy of the programs encourages participants to empower themselves in all parts of their lives to find a balance of self-care and fun!  

Tess and her health tips and recipes have been featured in the L.A Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Real Simple, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Clean Eating, Yoga Journal, Vegetarian Times, Yahoo Living, the Today show, Fox, Home & Family, and many other media outlets.

 As a spokesperson, presenter, and recipe developer, Tess has collaborated with many brands, including KitchenAid, Vitamix, Williams-Sonoma, Four Seasons, Whole Foods Market, Sprouts Farmers Market, Silk, So Delicious, and many others.

Tess has a passion for sharing stories that inspire people to go after what they want.

She is so excited to celebrate these stories on the It Has To Be Me podcast.