It Has To Be Me Episode

Reclaim your feminine power

Keri Khalighi

Episode #62: July 10th, 2025

THE GOLD FROM THIS EPISODE

“Being in circle with other women is like holding an ancient code. There is a magic women have by just being together. We know what is needed in the moment, and we have this incredible permission medicine to free ourselves and each other through our own embodiment.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“Tea ceremony—the slowness, the intentionality of every object, and the tea itself opened up a space for me to catch up to myself and the fast pace of my life. The beauty and simplicity of the ritual stops the mind. We drink six to seven bowls of tea in a one-hour time period and get ‘tea drunk’. Camellia Sinensis creates this lovely calm-alert place to explore.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“Embodiment work allowed me to explore my sensuality and sexuality that had been cut off in my earlier years, and reclaim that piece for myself. I came to understand that my pleasure is mine, and that I have it to share with somebody else. It’s not something somebody else gives to me.”  

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“Being a doula was the first opening into women's bodies, and the stories we carry. We're always birthing, not necessarily babies, but ideas, and new versions of ourselves.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“The death of my marriage was a big initiation to feel deeply embodied in a way that I had not experienced before. Giving myself permission and feeling empowered. Getting in touch with what I needed, and how that flowed into my boundaries of what’s okay and what’s not okay.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“The beginning of stepping into what felt right was having the courage to walk away from my marriage and what wasn't mine. There's a sovereignty that comes with knowing I can trust myself to do the hardest and most courageous thing because I value myself and my life.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“I was angsty and wallowing in the search for 'the thing' I wanted to do for years, and it was there all along. We think finding it is complicated or sophisticated. But, it’s all right here. A big part of the work is slowing down, getting still, diving underneath the chaos, and listening to the peace and wisdom in the moment. Maya Luna calls it ‘the deep feminine current of reality’. It's always here, and it’s fun to play in that flow of knowledge and pleasure and aliveness.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

"The confusion or murkiness, given enough time, space, and care, always clarifies. I take that knowledge into moments of not knowing to slow down and tell that part of myself that wants certainty that, ‘it's okay to not know’. There's so much juice and beauty and humility in not knowing. When I'm on my knees not knowing, I’m in the mystery and I'm listening. That's when I'm closest to God.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

“When self-doubt comes up, I remember I’m serving something greater. Why am I doing this? Why does it matter? What and who do I serve? Letting that be the only thing that matters and being willing to not get it right, being willing to be judged and look like a fool, have it be messy and inarticulate, to crash and burn, and have it flop if it needs to. Give your imperfect offering.”

Keri Khalighi

Somatic Ceremonialist and Guide

in THIS EPISODE

  • Keri Khalighi, somatic guide, shares her journey from shape-shifting, performing, and stifling her voice to reclaiming her feminine power through embodied listening. 

  • She remembers her shy 13-year-old self from small-town Nebraska who was catapulted into the world of high fashion. Modeling in New York and Europe, she underwent a trial by fire, learning to shut down her sensitivity to survive.

  • Naive, and craving safety and stability, Keri became a serial monogamist, and failed to find the emotional intimacy she needed. 

  • Being a mother, a doula, and caregiver for her dying father cracked open a new level of awareness, connection, and wisdom. But, it took a divorce to usher in a renaissance of being.

  • Through tantra and other ancient traditions, feminine embodiment practices, and guidance from mentors, Keri moved into a deeper understanding of herself. That planted the seeds for a soul connection with her husband, Amir. She takes us inside their partnership, and how it serves as the foundation for their work as somatic and embodiment guides.

  • Celebrating the wisdom of age, we honor the stories we carry in our bodies as women, the beauty of exploring our sexuality, and how breath, movement, and poetry open our hearts and possibilities.

  • We dive into the power of women’s circles, and the ancient magic of feminine gathering. Then, Keri shares the beauty of tea ceremonies, which help us slow down and catch up—both to ourselves and with the fast pace of life.

  • She encourages us to live in “the juice” and humility of the unknown, listen to the truth of the moment, and share your imperfect offering.

TESS'S TAKEAWAYS

  • Somatics, tea ceremonies, and other practices open us to embodied listening. 

  • Women are always birthing, not only babies, but ideas, and new versions of themselves.

  • Women’s circles provide a space for connection, free expression, and healing.

  • Pleasure is yours to have and share. Not something somebody gives you.

  • Have the sovereignty to walk away from what isn’t yours, and step into what is.

  • Grief is an initiation portal that opens up new possibilities and knowing.

  • Your darkest experiences turn into the gold from which to serve.

  • Celebrate the mystery and humility of the unknown and listen to the questions.

ABOUT KERI

Somatic guide and ceremonialist, Keri Khalighi invites women into deeper connection with their bodies, their truth, and the rhythms of the natural world through private mentorship, circles, and workshops. 

Guided by archetypal and ancestral threads, and rooted in decades of experience with embodiment, birthwork, trauma healing, and sacred ritual, Keri’s offerings create space for women to listen to their inner knowing. 

At the heart of her practice is Cha Dao - the Way of Tea - a ceremonial path which she weaves with somatic listening, expressive movement, and feminine wisdom traditions. 

Keri collaborates with her husband, Amir Khalighi, founder of Embodied Masculine, offering immersive experiences that explore the sacred dialogue of the feminine and masculine energies that exist within us and between us.