“We attract partners who deny us love as much as we deny them love. My inability to meet someone in the moment in full surrender was the reciprocal of their inability to be worthy of that surrender.”

“An unconscious lover is someone who's unaware, insensitive, reactive, unskillful when it comes to polarity, passionless, constantly distracted, and selfish.”

“It’s common to think that there’s no good men and nobody is worth trusting. But, when a woman finds the ability to express and surrender, deeply connect to her wisdom, and reveal that across her body and feelings and expression, it inspires a kind of partner that makes that possible.”

“Mastery is not a destination. It’s a commitment to a path that has no end. It's the constant pursuit of cultivating skills within ourselves and with our partner. This is our compass for intimate relationship.”

“When you learn to see, feel, and allow in intimate relationship, it’s a glue that creates an unbreakable bond no matter what comes your way. You feel known, and grow on your own path, as well as sexually and spiritually alongside your lover."

“The skill of presence allows you to see lovership as a meditation. Come to your partner with a beginner’s mindset, as if you’re seeing them for the first time. So the moment is pregnant with aliveness, no matter how many times you've been together before.”

“We chase love, and then when it's here, we run from it. Eye contact is the starting point for breaking that pattern. You kill your partner when you run from intensity. They feel how little capacity you have for their fullness. Maintaining eye contact says, ‘I've got the capacity for the full you. It's a gift of love.”

“The paradox of equanimity and desire is at the heart and soul of what sacred sexuality is—a vehicle for spiritual awakening. The secret is to be in absolute equanimity so you can want and allow at the same time with full intensity unrelated to an exterior outcome or change of any kind.”

“What creates the hottest sexual moments is the full embodiment of equanimity and desire at the same time. Both our desires coexist harmoniously even though they're radically different. Desire is the tension point that exists between you wanting something and the distance between it and you. To actually touch it fully would be for the desire to disappear. So, I'm not shutting his desire down or judging mine, but I’m giving him the bridge into me. I'm giving him the keys. Here's what I would need to get there. Then, he starts doing it, and we go from there.”

“Self-development is wonderful. But devotion is what makes this body of work a spiritual path. Rather than it being ‘let's develop ourselves and create the perfect self’, let's learn how to love beyond our self, beyond the ego, and actually love another human being. Devotion allows you to stay together through trying times because you transcend your own neediness and show up for each other.”