It Has To Be Me Episode

INSIDE THE HOFFMAN PROCESS

Crystal Jenkins

Episode #29: November 21st, 2024

THE GOLD FROM THIS EPISODE

“The Hoffman Process is a transformational week of identifying the limiting beliefs and patterns that are holding you back.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“People are not that complicated. We have complicated stories and emotions. But, we want the same thing: To feel love and belonging and a sense of freedom to show up as our true selves.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“People need you to stand up and have a voice and an opinion because that is how they get to know you.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“Our brains look at what's happened in the past, and keep preparing for the same thing to happen in the future. If you're living back in the past or projecting into the future, you’re missing life.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“We try to get it perfect so we don't hurt or suffer. But, we can stay present, meet life as it comes, check in with ourselves, and recognize we’re gonna make mistakes. We can forgive ourselves, learn, get up, and meet life again. It’s a practice.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“Every relationship is a 50-50 dance of responsibility. I want to take 100 percent of my 50 percent.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“We make assumptions about others and tell ourselves stories as a way of evaluating: Am I enough? It is a practice to check in and ask yourself, Is this really true?”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“I've gotten to the age where I've looked backwards enough. I don't want to continue to make that mistake. I want to be present and I don't want to miss anything.”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

“If I react much bigger than the incident, I know the trigger is old and historical. I ask myself: How old did I feel in that moment? And, when have I felt this way before in my childhood?”

Crystal Jenkins

Head of Teacher Training at The Hoffman Institute

in THIS EPISODE

  • Crystal Jenkins, therapist and director of teacher training at The Hoffman Institute, explores the ways that limiting beliefs and behaviors rooted in childhood hold us back as adults.

  • We dive into the Hoffman Process—an 8-day transformational experience that enables participants to recognize and break negative patterns to make empowered choices and go after what they want.

  • Crystal shares her personal experience with the Process, and how she was skeptical despite her partner’s encouragement to go through it. A seasoned counselor trained in psychology, she wondered how much this had to teach her. But, just two days in she was looking at everything she thought she knew about herself through a different lens.

  • Identifying her childhood wounds, and those of her parents, she moved beyond reacting from historical memories to responding in relationships as a resilient adult. Freed by this new awareness, she broke through her own perceived ceiling of what was possible, went after what she wanted, and achieved her boldest goals.

  • We discuss the importance of embracing imperfection, the power of personal responsibility, and the value of checking the stories that drive our choices. “Accept your mistakes,” Crystal says, “learn from them, make amends, and love yourself up!”

  • Let her mantra—“I don’t want to miss a thing”—inspire you to claim your next “It Has To Be Me!”

TESS'S TAKEAWAYS

  • When you live in the past or project into the future, you miss life.

  • Limiting beliefs and behaviors ingrained during childhood can be overcome.

  • Recognizing your childhood wounds and those of your parents improves relationships.

  • Using your voice and expressing opinions is how you let people get to know you.

  • Understanding your emotional triggers enables you to respond rather than react.

  • Relationships are a 50-50 dance of responsibility. Take 100 percent of your 50 percent.

  • Take responsibility, make amends, forgive yourself, learn, and move on. 

  • Seize opportunities to do things that are in line with what you want.

ABOUT CRYSTAL

Building on experience as a teacher, school counselor, and therapist, Crystal Jenkins became a teacher at The Hoffman Institute.
Since 2017, she’s been the Institute’s Director Of Teacher Training. 

Crystal specializes in guiding individuals through transformative personal development journeys. 

Known for her compassionate and intuitive approach, she helps participants gain more self awareness, and confront and heal patterns rooted in their pasts, in order to replace negative behavioral cycles with healthier and more empowering perspectives. 

Beyond her work at Hoffman, Crystal enjoys spending time outdoors with her family and friends. An avid sports fan, she rarely misses a day of checking the scores of her favorite teams.